(So he thought Musa won’t tell me abi?)
(I bet he doesn’t know that it’s not how long but how well)
(He doesn’t know Musa is closer to me)
(How dare he go behind my back and discuss our little disagreement with Musa of all people!)
(He had the audacity to say bad things about me to someone unimportant)
(It’s my fault, I have been nice hence him taking me for granted)
(Anyway he would soon be here)
(I would see how he would wriggle out of this one)
Few minutes later…
“Hello Ronke”
Silence…
“Ronke, hi”
Silence…
(She seems rather deep in thought, I hope all is well)
(Or could it be because of our recent misunderstanding?)
Slight tap on her shoulder…
“Ronke are you alright?”
“I’m fine”
“You seemed lost in thought, is everything alright?”
Raises voice slightly…
“I said I’m fine!”
“I heard you it’s just that I know you well enough to know when something is wrong”
(Ehen? See me see trouble o, is it by force?)
“But I have said nothing is wrong, or do you want something bad to happen?”
“No! It’s just; is this about our recent misunderstanding?”
“What about it? Please it’s too small an issue to fuss over”
(Hmmm I’m confused)
(If she is not upset about it then what could be the issue and why is she refusing to say?)
(Well when she is ready to talk she will)
(I came here to relax and I won’t let anyone spoil my fun)
“Its fine, let me go say hi to the other people, just thought to check on you first”
Silence…
He leaves to chat up other people at the get together…
(If you like don’t check on me at all, you haven’t seen anything yet, good riddance!)
The two spend the rest of the night mingling with friends but never each other
Ronke leaves unusually early to avoid Chike talking to her again
Chike notices this few minutes later and concludes it was because of him she left
He is upset that she is blowing the little matter out of proportion
He decides he won’t call her till she makes first contact and apologises for her behaviour
She waits for him to come over and beg her to tell him what’s wrong
The two don’t speak for the next few days
They don’t speak the next few weeks
They don’t speak for a couple of months…
The two ultimately get busy and forget about each other, getting lost in the works of life…
A few years later they meet at a function
Each tries to remember why they stopped talking but can’t seem to
Regardless they still feel upset and neither talks to the other
They both leave the function with nostalgia
They both go on to lead separate lives each remembering the other every now and then…
It’s often said that the person who cares less has the power in the relationship. This mind set has led a lot of emotional people to be conscious about their relationships. They magnify every little detail in order to protect themselves and thus they end up making assumptions. These assumptions usually grow into something bizarre and when fuelled by emotions, the individual begins to believe these cooked up thoughts to the point of searching for evidence to support their made up theories which eventually may become their reality. As blunt as it may sound, this in fact is not too far from an episodic psychosis.
Remember, every wildfire starts from a little spark. In a time where the trend is to tell people what they want to hear regardless of its substance of truth, people often build on assumptions just for it all to collapse on the foundation of deceit. They then take those failures into other relationships. Sadly, this often puts them in a situation where they might mess up something good by applying the lessons they learnt from something bad.
“Assumption is the mother of all screw ups”
Simply put, DON’T make assumptions. Just ask! It might be your fault, the other person’s fault, either your faults or even a simple misunderstanding but only speaking up would clear that up.
If only Ronke swallowed her pride and spoke up, maybe they would have had reparation and held on to their friendship.
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