A word that’s rarely used in conversation, but one that has a great influence on the direction our conversations should take. What is love? What is lust? What is life? Who is man? What is a job? What is work? What is a relationship? What is marriage? What is religion? What is moderation? Who am I? Who is God? Does He exist? Why was I made? How much time do I have? What is music? How should it be done? What is friendship? Who is an acquaintance?

Semantics is the study of the meaning of words and phrases or simply the meaning of a word. So when an individual lives life as it comes, it simply means he hasn’t defined who he is, or his purpose for being. When a marriage breaks up, it means one or both of the people in it didn’t have a definition for marriage in the first place. A relationship has a definition ideally that takes a certain amount of maturity to indulge in, but realistically 12, 13 year old children are involved in them. It requires time to nurture and should include certain terms stated at the beginning to guide it, but those are more often than not bypassed nowadays. Someone decides to be a musician without caring to go into the history of music or honing themselves with the necessary skills involved in it.

But then in this world where everything gets updated in real-time, traditional definitions aren’t the norm any longer. This leads to a lot of misunderstandings. In a traditional context, a fellow can say to his friend “I love you” maybe for a favour rendered, but informal contemporary language would require him to include the phrase “no homo”. “I love you” has always been an ambiguous term but now the word “love” is sometimes used to mean “lust”. Subsequently even when communication appears transparent, the reaction of both parties occasionally conflict each other. This obviously is because both parties had different definitions of the keyword(s).

I believe the point of this has been passed to you. Before you commit to something, try to define it properly and know what it entails. For example in an election, one is to get information on as many candidates as they can, evaluate them, and then choose one based on their ability rather than their popularity. Ideally that is what is entailed of every voter in a democratic situation. In getting a job, one shouldn’t just see the short-term benefits, but also the long-term benefits as every job has an effect on one’s lifelong career. If you are the traditional type, realise your definitions are outdated to a lot of people and as an “updated” person, realise the exception demands some people are still traditional. Words weigh a ton, pick them wisely having in mind not everyone would interpret it the same way. Bless!



Originally posted on Facebook on February 20, 2011


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Time or Money?

It’s all about risk, how much time you have to make the best decisions and what you are willing to put at stake. After all time is money. But what is money? Is it just currency? Is it just a means to an end? To what end? Is it to the end of poverty? Is it till the end of life? Ok, let me slow down, that’s a long time to come. Or is it? Really do we know when the last grain of sand would give way to “gravity” through that narrow tube into the lower bulb of our hourglass signifying THE END?


I have come across people making plans from the present to their old age, but subconsciously most can’t say for certain they’d live that long. The movie “In Time” is based on a world where time is money, literarily. And so you can actually see your clock wind down till its “empty”. So you have time even if you aren’t sure how much it is, so what do you invest it on? Let’s just analyse briefly a typical day; Wake, groom, breakfast, home/school/work, lunch, home/hangout, dinner, groom and sleep. Of course there would be TV, music, chatting, twitting, reading, gossip and all sorts in between all those. Overtime we’d end up achieving the dreams we’d set out to accomplish in some cases. Is that all there is to invest in? Is that all there is to life?

I have come across people making statements such as “I don’t believe in God. If there was a God He won’t let all the evil happening in the world occur”. It’s funny but these are people who clearly only call on God when there is trouble, when there is some risk involved or life at stake. His role in their lives is basically that of a “Mr. Fix it”. They seem to ignore the fact that He provided us with instructions (most of us haven’t read, understood and applied them) and also has given freewill which has been abused and consequently is the reason why there are “evil happenings”. But Ps 63:1 and 6, Ps 119:11 and especially Matt 6:33 point to the fact that He should be the first thing in our lives in all things through His word and having Him in our conscious thoughts both in the morning and night. 1 Thess 5:17 also says “Pray without ceasing”. This takes time of course and as time is all we have, it’s an investment and so we measure the risk, what’s at stake and what we gain.

So what’s the risk? Is it important? At least He said in Rom 9:15 “…I will have mercy on whom I will have mercy, and I will have compassion on whom I will have compassion.” KJV. Maybe we can get away with it? What’s at stake? Eternal life which we can’t even place a value on as it is unending, now that’s a lot of time! What do we gain? Well heaven or hell as the case may be, of course only if we believe it exists.

Matt 6:19-21;

19 Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal:

 20 But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal:

 21 For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also. KJV

If money is time and time is all you have in this world then there are investment decisions you should be taking. I remember a tweet I once saw where someone was being dissed for knowing countless facts about a fictional character. Well even if God is fictional to you, you never know what getting to know Him could do for you. My personal belief is that “Life is the short judgement of a long sentence”. Whether it’s 20, 40, 60, 80 or 100 years the summary of your life determines where your eternity would be spent and that decision is in your hand just as your wrist watch is. Time is in your hands even if you can’t see its value, spend it wisely because all investments have rewards and consequences.

Matt 13:44-46;

44 Again, the kingdom of heaven is like unto treasure hid in a field; the which when a man hath found, he hideth, and for joy thereof goeth and selleth all that he hath, and buyeth that field.


45 Again, the kingdom of heaven is like unto a merchant man, seeking goodly pearls:


46 Who, when he had found one pearl of great price, went and sold all that he had, and bought it. KJV


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The dream of things not to happen

Reaching for lightyears away and still stretching

The feel of peace and still battling

Touching your heart, and numb is the feeling

Minds on common ground and still conflicting

Moving on and still is the feeling

Realise it’s reality and wish I were dreaming

You don’t, I do love driving, feel we drifting

It takes two to tango, alone am dancing

Holding a pillow, pining for the real thing

“Call me when you get this”, Corinne is singing

“When a man loves a woman”, by Michael Bolton

Cant help it, sorry am selfish, follow my plans

Ruled by time and space, gotta find a balance

Been there once, feels like it was a trance

The utopia where love is given a chance




Originally posted on Facebook on September 8, 2010


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A lovely Friday and Nedu and I go out to get some plug-ins…Ok, rewind…its starts…oh yes! So I was trying my headphones out with the new audio interface I got and it was sounding weird. After troubleshooting severally with no audible difference I was starting to freak out! Having new stuff is like a dream come true yeah? Well the nightmare is it not working as it should! Finally I found the hitch. How silly I was, feeling embarrassed even if no one was with me I realised it was the mono ¼” jack I had used while what I really needed was the “stereo-type”.

A lovely Friday and Nedu and I go out to get some plug-ins, AV cords and other accessories. After visiting several shops we stopped at one where we were to buy one of the accessories. We had to wait a bit since most of the stock had been moved temporarily. We inspected a few of the equipment left in the shop and we were interested in one that was affordable and suited our immediate needs. We got a price for it and indicated we’d return for it without giving a specific date because of our uncertainty. We discussed over the weekend and settled on getting it on Monday which was the 31st of December 2012, yes this happened last year and I wonder how I still remember it.

Anyway, on getting there on Monday we met the same Igbo guy who told us the price on Friday and we told him we were back. With the product in our sight he brought up a ridiculous story which I wouldn’t bother narrating. We went back and forth, tried different tactics but he offered us nearly double the price stating certain circumstances that had changed. Coming from a ‘mixed’ Nigerian background, I avoid endorsing stereotypes but this was just too much! How would the love of money render your words void? I even intended getting more clients for him. Going online to do a little research on the product, I realised the initial price offered was even slightly higher than it should be.  I don’t do stereotypes but would I, from what people have said over time and my recent experience, saying Igbo businessmen love money too much make me a hypocrite?

Finally, Nedu and I had to get an affordable alternative to that product elsewhere and on the way something happened. Three teenagers were trying to cross the road and a stationary bus moved a bit and it seemed it would bump them but it didn’t. They were just a bit frightened by the minor incident. The interesting part was a woman who drew my attention as she was shouting as if she had been hit on behalf of those kids. Looking in her direction I wasn’t surprised especially as she was shouting in Yoruba!!! I really don’t know what side of the line I’m on, any help? Plus I would like you to comment on any similar experience you might have had.


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