Thoughts: The Domino Effect

One of the worst things is working all your life and not having a plan for when you retire. Recently someone told me of someone who worked in a power station where there was constant electricity supply and security. After he retired, he had to move out and it took him about 2 or 3 years to adapt to life outside his comfort zone. Today I see a lot of changes going on in society and I wonder, where is all this leading to? Are we making changes just because we can or is there something specific we are working towards?

Recently in America the gay marriage law was passed. Finally ‘sense’ prevailed that all forms of love should be treated equally and given the same rights. It started with talking about it, broadcasting it, gradually desensitising the general public till people started to be indifferent, and then sympathetic and finally supportive. Well what is done is done, it was only a matter of time after all persistence pays. But then I’ve got to ask, what next?

What other ‘forms’ of love are we discriminating against? What other groups of people are being suppressed? What other things that would be classified as a sickness centuries ago is to be normalised today? Well maybe not today per say, say in a couple of years’ time?

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The basic thought behind the homosexual philosophy is that love cannot be limited and that people have no control over whom they love and should not be forced to love the opposite sex if they lack the ability to. This is what society has tried to force down their throats with things like lesbians being raped as a ‘corrective’ measure. Why would a man pursue a relationship with a woman when he is clearly not attracted to her and vice versa? Why should a person who is clearly not attracted to a person above the legal age be forced to pursue a relationship when they’re clearly not attracted to them and vice versa?

It used to be unheard of that a woman would date or marry a man many years her junior, but that’s obtainable today because change is the only constant thing. So why would a young boy who desires a relationship with his teacher  be denied it or a man who desires a 13 year old girl around his neighbourhood be denied his one ‘true’ love?

An elder once said they weren’t exposed to sex till they were well in their 20s, but they were heavily disadvantaged. If only they knew sex sells! Let’s face it, the ‘kids’ of today get a serious head start on this issue of sex most knowing intimate details before they are teenagers. I recall a story of a girl who delivered at 13 having been impregnated by a boy who wasn’t anymore older than herself!

So wait! Kids are having sex in their teenage years, drinking, living unsupervised lives because their parents have to work and someway somehow they aren’t allowed to be attracted to people who are above a certain age limit? Ok that might be too much, let me take a detour…

I read an article where a woman happen to take her children to what was meant to be a children’s. You really should read the full story here. The summary goes that the children were dressed in bum shorts, alter necks, cut-off jeans and the likes. She noted as well that the 4 to 6 year olds at the said party danced provocatively to songs way above their censorship level. The children who were ‘behind the times’ were voted out as the others ‘twerked’ and did ‘gangsta’ moves. I myself recall over ten years ago where I was at the mall with my family and my father happened to drop his mouth open. We looked along his line of vision only to see a little girl dressed in a short skirt with her a top that had her back open. She looked no more than 3 years of age.

The article further gives instances of when little children were made up as if they were adults, she concluded by asking why, with the rising rate in child molestation, would parents decide to sexualise their kids by exposing them to things they shouldn’t be exposed to at their age.

My point? There are people out there who cannot fathom a functional relationship with a fully developed adult, they rather just have kids! Sick right? Well who are we to say? A man desiring a man was sick, now it’s cute! Children are getting sexually active a lot earlier simply because of their exposure and parents aren’t helping at all with what we expose our children to. I have seen guys my age look at teenage girls with lustful eyes, and it seems ‘alright’ because most assume those teenage girls are sexually active already. We’ve heard of teachers having sexual relationships with their students, sometimes voluntarily other times not. So what’s left? All it takes is a coalition of paedophiles to request their type of love isn’t a sickness. All it takes is the help of the trusty media to help desensitize the public. All it takes is yearly walks by the paedophile bodies yearly to let the public know they exist and do not want to have to keep hiding their love! All it takes is a decade or 2 till our kids have a right to love whomever they love regardless of their age. After all age is nothing but a number.


My question is simple, where do we draw the line?

We Christians failed to be the light of the world by being faithful and upholding the virtues of the marriage institution. We departed from God’s plan for the community based on His instructions for the family. And so based on the fact we are living in sin, those who would ordinarily have the cause to live in shame, now feel the need and want to be open about it.

So a black man wants equal rights, the albinos deserve the same too and so do the disabled members of society. But must it end there? Nope, if a man and a woman can get married, then two men or two women should be able to do the same if they ‘truly’ love each other. So why should a grown man live in shame because of the ‘true’ love he has for a willing young lad or lass? I mean there was a case of a teacher who had a sexual relationship with her student and after her prison time, the lad had aged above the legal age and he continued his relationship with her! Isn’t that a sign love endures?

The world never learns from history, our drive for development is partially fuelled by our desire to do what we want as individuals and not necessarily what is for the public good, we live for the day and disregard the domino effect of what today’s decision could bring.

Are you ok with your child having a relationship with a fully developed adult? No? Well give it time, all it takes is time. Either take a stand today or go along with whatever comes along tomorrow. Your choice! My view on the gay marriage was addressed here and I’m unrepentantly of the opinion our kids should be allowed to live each stage of their lives as is appropriate and not allowed to grow before they should. Protect the children! Let their innocence last as long as it can before the world takes it from them!


God: The Love of the Father

This week’s post is by Sophie who proofreads my blog. Shout out to her!!! Do enjoy and share:

The Lord is mighty and wonderful in His ways 

In The way in which He orchestrates a series of events.

He is perfect in His timing

Never too late and always on time

I have learnt that it is when we find rest in Him that life begins to make sense in the chaos 

It’s such a privilege to know that We have a loving Father who is ever so gracious and merciful

He looks out for His own 

Allows us to experience the pain of life 

But yet causes something beautiful to come out, life anew

For when He has tried us, we will come forth as gold!

So in the pain, in the happiness 

I have joy because the joy of The Lord is my strength 

I take comfort in knowing that He will never leave me nor forsake me

I take my pride in Him 

Allowing His love to pierce through my soul

I honour Him 

Allowing Him to captivate me with His wondrous works

In all things, I surrender all 

With my arms wide open 

No fear, No doubt 

Nothing but trust!

Music: Sampling as a means to time travel and rewrite stories

There are folks who only listen to music that make the top of the charts. Some only download hit songs from artistes and don’t bother about the albums. I for one don’t rely solely on the radio as there are songs out there that don’t make the radio or don’t stay long on the charts if they are lucky to get on. There are also those who couldn’t care less about who produced a song or the creative process that led to it, they just consume till there’s something new, or a times, something old.

And so I found Bobby Caldwell’s 1980 song “Open your Eyes”, which is a song where he tries to convince a woman that she doesn’t have to be alone and that she should let go of the past. Might you have wondered how I found that song which wasn’t even an album single? Well it was easy after J Dilla did.

Who’s J Dilla?

Real names: James Yancey

The late, great revered hip-hop producer. Maybe he wasn’t as popular as the Dres, Diddys and Timbalands, he still was in a class of his own. He was the producer of Common’s 2000 Grammy nominated single, The Light. He was the one that reinvented (sampled) Bobby Caldwell’s record.

Now sampling was, according to Lord Jamar of Brand Nubian in the documentary The Art of Rap (Something from Nothing) by Ice T, necessitated at a time when musical instruments were removed from schools and they had no other option but to turn their only source of music, the record player, into a musical instrument.

Sampling started out from borrowing drums, horns, keys and other musical elements to actually recreating them and even referencing lyrics as is common of recent in rap music. Ever heard a ‘new’ song that sounded too similar you get confused as to if the song was being played for the first time or if you had heard it previously without paying attention. Or maybe it contained a subtle sound or speech that seemed too familiar? Well that’s because the song is likely a remake of something old you’d heard before. Same way I heard an old song a times and realise that’s were a young artist got his words from. There’s nothing new under the sun yeah?

Well common’s song was eccentric at the time as it dealt with very personal feeling with his then girlfriend Erykah Badu who happen to be in the video as well. He was speaking about his hopes, his convictions amongst other things. A lot different in concept from what Bobby Caldwell did. Why eccentric? Because it was a period when gangster rap was in vogue. It was an emotional song without sounding effeminate (did someone say Drake? Lol), which reminds me in some way of LL Cool J’s 1987 song “I Need Love”.

The Light is a song that always make it back to my playlist, I remember first hearing it around 2007 for the first time and a friend wondered why I liked it. He didn’t appreciate the lyrics or the beat and couldn’t understand why a 7-year-old song would excite me.

It’s the same reaction when I play old songs for people and they wonder why it appeals to me at all. The simple fact is most people compare those old songs to what we have now which is an evolved and mostly watered down version of those old records. People never realise they are comparing vinyls and tape to CDs. They don’t consider how hard live music is and how many hours a band has to rehearse before they can make that one perfect take that gets recorded in history. They don’t consider how hard one has to work to come up with meaningful lyrics, unique wordplay, metaphors, and the likes. They don’t consider how microphones and music production techniques have evolved. They forget some of those songs are mono analogue records.

But once you sit and listen to an old song and have those in mind, you would truly appreciate what it was that enabled what we have today before it was all commercialise and repackaged to our taste. If it weren’t so then we wouldn’t have people still sampling today.

An example is the last verse on Drake’s 6 Man from his “If You’re Reading This It’s Too Late”. It was taken from Erykah Badu’s hook in The Roots’ 1998 song “You Got Me”.

If you like you could always check to find out what songs were sampled in your favourite song and maybe even listen to the originals to how the different bits came together to form them.