Thoughts: Unconscious Induction

I remember as a child, looking up to certain people, from MJ, to uncles and family friends. I learnt a wide variety from them, envied them, and couldn’t wait to do the things they did. I remember excitedly watching people drive cars as it was something I realised I’d have to wait for over a decade before I was legally allowed to. I watched both sexes wear trendy clothes that seemed outrageous and yet I couldn’t wait for the chance to make a choice of what I’d wear.

Sometime last year I was in a bus and beside me was a little boy, I felt him looking at me and looking over I saw a look of admiration and a little anxiety. I smiled back hoping he would lighten up. I realised this was how it must have been as a young child looking at older ones, admiring and learning their attitudes and differences.


Now the tables have turned and I find myself in the position where whatever I do or appear to do would have an effect on the younger ones around me. I realise my words and actions would either bring something new to them for good or bad, or reaffirm whatever they have learnt so far.

I remember advising the kids I taught to take each stage of life as it came and to never act younger or older than they were as they would certainly pass through each phase when it was due. Why live 18 at 15? 23 at 18? 30 at 20? 50 at 30? What happens when you’re 80? You’d live 112?

It was a challenge, I found myself as a teacher whose duty it was to guide and guard these kids in specific subjects as well as about life generally. It was difficult as I had my fair share of stiff teachers and had had my streaks of rebellion. I was caught in between. I wanted to be the young one who’d understand them and what they’re all about and indulge their excesses. At the same time, I wanted to be the older one who had experiences to share so that they wouldn’t make the same mistakes I had and to lay as good a foundation of discipline as I could.

How well did I do in the end?

Very well I dare say!

Only because however tough I was on them, they still were comfortable enough to open up to me and nearly 2 years after, I’m still in touch with a few of them.

My point?

The more we grow, the more liberty we gain, religiously, economically and socially, tend to use as we please, which is just great. But however much we’d like to tell the younger ones what to and what to not do, they still see what we do, and will re-enact what they fancy immediately or at some time in the future.


I find I’m still learning so much from the older generation ahead and that it’s my duty to filter through what I learn so that whatever I imbibe is of a positive benefit to not just myself but the younger ones whom I unconsciously inspire. The future depends on how we inspire those who will take over from us, just as much as it is inspired by what we chose to keep from what we learnt every day. So choose wisely cos the younger ones would question our choices just as much as we question the older one.


Google: Friend or Foe?

I don’t like Google! It’s that simple! I have always sparred with my brother and a few friends as to how aggressive I think they are in their expansion pursuits. But it’s always about the fact that their products are very functional, but I always wondered how they went from search engine on this apparent journey to world power! Even people gave them free promotion with the common phrase “Go ask Google”.

I should state here that I use an android and opened a Gmail when I got it. It also came with a YouTube and Google+ accounts which I don’t  actively use. I just wonder how they can be curbed from their rapid growth. Don’t get me wrong, I value their functionality and admit their products are an essential aspect of life as it is but there are other concerns apart from these facts. Apart from some articles I read on their acquisition of a robotics company and work with the U.S. Army, I never had facts to use. Well I did find a detailed article on the issue and thought to share. Do you think they are friends, potential foes or what? Do read the article in the link and share your thoughts. Thanks.

How far will you go?

A friend shared this on facebook and it seemed appropriate to share as it relates to this topic.

“I recall dad telling me about a man in my neighbourhood who became popular for engaging in money rituals just to buy the 80’s edition of the Honda Prelude. You wouldn’t buy that car for 50k today. Some other guy brutally murdered his brother, (whom their father gave cash to travel for the purpose of re-stocking their warehouse) just because he wanted 2 acquire the rave of the moment Pathfinder jeep. That same vehicle is now better described as a coffin. I remember as a kid, my whole street converged to watch a truck deliver a very large satellite dish to my neighbour’s house. Today a dish one tenth that size delivers 5 times the value and is in almost every student’s hostel room. What about the Volkswagen Santana, Mercedes Benz V boot, 505 Evolution, Toyota Crown, all overtaken by latest models of Camry, Honda, Bugatti, Bentley, X6, Acura and Infinity? …. Vanity. Some ladies left their true loves because some rich guy then persuaded them with a Daewoo Racer, which turned out to be the only car they ever owned till today, while enduring the most terrible marriage life. They found out, albeit too late that true love is invaluable, that intangibles are to be cherished over tangibles. A friend declared drinks because he launched the Nokia Communicator for over hundred grand in 2002. Today that phone would embarrass the owner and is a joke compared to the low cost and everyday phone. What about d MTN sim card that many people went extra miles before they bought for over 30k? Today you will not buy it at N100 because all networks are begging people to even take it for free. People are still making the most horrific sacrifices over ‘vanity’ and make enemies over worthless material things. What can I say? Look back at that one thing you want to kill or die for today and see what becomes of it tomorrow. There is absolutely nothing you can’t achieve, all u need is a little time and patience and you will thank God without regrets.”

Really is amusing how far people would go to get what they want and it also is extremely amusing how far people would run from what they need. So what do you want and what do you need? That’s a question I have struggled to implement over the years. I remember hearing a sermon of T.D. Jake’s where admitted he had issues and that one of the things that discourages Christians is when their leaders act perfect. This makes them feel like they would never get to that level of ‘perfection’. There are those issues a lot of us believe we can’t defeat and as such we decide consciously or unconsciously to live with them. They keep us stagnant, we don’t grow past them. They are the big issues that keep us from noticing the small ones. Oh yes, if you don’t get rid of the big issues, you would find it hard finding or paying attention to the lesser ones. It’s only after victory over the big issues that we’d notice the numerous lesser ones that are huge when looked at collectively. Now don’t get it twisted, I know I write mostly from an idealistic point of view, but Darola has got his own issues as well. I’m working on them, I’m far from perfect believe me, but as my favourite motto goes “The pursuit of perfect” (Lexus). As T.D. Jakes said we all have our contradictions.

My point simply is how far would you go to get what you want? But would overlook and learn to live with the things you need to get over. There is only one perfect being, God and He is at the end of our ‘pursuit of perfection’. How far would you go to get that A grade you want? Or that girl you love? Or those clothes you crave for? Or that healing you need? Or that contract you want? To get that contract you would invest your time, thoughts and money. For that girl you’d go all the way with all you’ve got and even make a fool of yourself. We often talk about how creative and smart Nigerians can be when they want to get bad things done and yet we hardly channel it into the things that would benefit us all. If you want something lasting, as long as eternity, something that wouldn’t be outdated in a couple of years, something that you need, then you’ve got to give it all the time, attention and sacrifice it deserves.

1 Cor 2:14-16

14But the natural man receiveth not the things of the Spirit of God: for they are foolishness unto him: neither can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned. 15But he that is spiritual judgeth all things, yet he himself is judged of no man. 16For who hath known the mind of the Lord, that he may instruct him? But we have the mind of Christ.

John 4:23-24

But the hour cometh, and now is, when the true worshippers shall worship the Father in spirit and in truth: for the Father seeketh such to worship him. 24God is a Spirit: and they that worship him must worship him in spirit and in truth.

To get to that level of spirituality that we all need, we need to dedicate time. It’s like a business, you can’t get what you don’t give.

Side note: I just want to thank God for adding a year to my life. I’m grateful. 🙂


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